Is social media causing technical difficulties in relationships? Many are examining this question. The August 14, 2011, “Trending with EZ” show on WOL 1450 AM (WOLDCNews.com) probes into this issue, as well.
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“Carol” from Upper Darby, PA remarks, “my boyfriend dumped me after he
read a post that said, “Thanks for a great night out.”
Unfortunately, Carol’s boyfriend did not know that the “great night out” was posted by her boss in response to an impromptu business meeting dinner which was attended by the boss’s wife.” Had Carol’s boyfriend listened and correctly communicated with Carol, the relationship may have lasted.
A poll done by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers showed that 80 percent of divorce lawyers said they used Facebook and other social sites to catch a cheating spouse or discover online activities that could affect a divorce. And in the UK, Managing Director Mark Keenan of Divorce-Online, stated that one in every five divorces stemmed from a Facebook-related activity.
There seems to be a lot of Facebook flirting and Twitter teasing going on. According to a 2008 survey by the Pew Internet and American Life Project, 1 in 5 adults questioned said they used online social networks to flirt with their connections. But while people are clearly using social media as a means to engage in extramarital activities, Facebook and Twitter are not necessarily causing the problem. Effective communication may actually be the culprit.
If one does not know how to connect with one’s partner, chances are the relationship will suffer, and in most cases, end. So stop blaming social media and learn how to communicate. Nevertheless, so your relationship can thrive, survive, and stay alive while using social media, take heed to the following do’s and don’ts.
THINGS NOT TO DO:
Social media can present the perfect platform for escape. It’s a great distraction for disengagement and disconnection and can be amusing and soothing. For successful relationships, however, couples need more than a “tweet” and a “like.” Fulfilled couples complete each other and click in person, knowing their connection extends beyond 140 characters.
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• Erline Aguiluz. “Facebook And Social Media Cause 1 in 5 Divorces In U.S.” The Chicago Family Law Blog, 3 March 2011.
• Carolyn Davis. “Divorce, Facebook Style.” The Philadelphia Inquirer, 12 July 2010.